A lot of holidays are associated with gift giving and receiving, and for me, that brings to mind the feeling of having enough. During this time of year, there is a huge focus on stuff - buying stuff to give to others,stuff to decorate our homes, stuff to wear for holiday events, stuff to take to holiday events, stuff to host events, etc. etc. etc. Many of us will be out the night before the holiday, buying more stuff, because it never seems like enough. Can we ever have enough stuff?
The holidays are right around the corner (seriously, time does not stop flying)! When I started thinking about the holidays this year, a sadness came over me. I figured a lot of others were feeling the same way. As I sat down to write this post and looked deeper into these feelings, I realized that the holidays really do bring up a lot of emotions.
I believe – 100% – that it is critical to learn new things all the time. And, learning new things in midlife is something we need to prioritize. We know it’s important to stay mentally sharp, especially as we age, and there are actually tons of reasons why it’s so important.
You know those times when you’re on edge and unable to focus and you either sleep a lot or can’t sleep at all? There are a lot of reasons we might see these things playing out in our lives; one that seems to show up a lot is emotional exhaustion.
Can you remember the last time you actually thought about your achievements or a recent accomplishment? Last week, last month, or last year? Or, shall I rephrase the question – when was the last time you downplayed an accomplishment or minimized a success? Maybe yesterday?
Until recently, I believed that my life would be pretty much routine and there wasn’t much I could really do about it at this point/age. Then, as I got closer and closer to age 50, I started paying attention to and learning about new things that made me question that belief. I now believe that my own success and happiness are totally within my control!
A question was recently posed to me – what is a failure that you have experienced and what did you learn from it? Well, I really couldn’t come up with anything in my life that I think of as a “failure.” I tried to think and the only thing that came to mind was not a failure per se, but things that I failed to do.
My birthday was last month. I turned 51. You know those birthday cards that make jokes about how old you’re getting? I actually didn’t get any of those this year, but when I was shopping for cards for my step-mom and my aunt (we all celebrate on the same day), I came across a lot of them! I would not say that these cards will help you to love your age…
I never really felt like I knew my purpose in life. I never felt like I had a passion for anything. Until I had my first child. At that point, I finally felt like I had a purpose... But I knew that it wouldn’t last forever. I remember rocking my daughter in the rocking chair in her baby room and crying as I thought about her leaving and going off to college. What would I do if I didn’t have this baby? I would, once again, have no purpose.